Yesterday I faced a surprising situation that escalated into a real moral dilemma for me. Writing down all the aspects of the story can be difficult, but I’ll try.
I had just returned to the apartment from a walk when the doorbell rang. It was the man who introduced me to the maid on my first day here, so I presume he is working for the company that rented this place to me. He asked to come in and sat to the table right in front of me. He was carrying some motorcycle brochures, so I thought he might have had something to do with my humble request of getting to ride a Bullet. When he opened his mouth, it turned out to be something completely different.
What I understood of his bad English was that he was aging (yes, around 55 maybe) and was having prostate problems. This of course would require medical attention, but less surprisingly he was short on money and wanted me to help him. He didn’t have anything specific to offer in return, so it would be pure charity from me. The whole time he was smiling widely, like he was telling me about a newborn baby or asking something from an old friend. I turned him down and walked him to the door, giving him a vague promise to not bring the whole incident to public. He left without any drama and left me puzzled with my thoughts.
On the other hand it would be humane to forget it all, but my sense of justice says something else. I have always tried to be honest, open and dignified, so I am tempted to let the manager of the company know what his employees are doing behind his back. I think it would be beneficial for everyone to try and reduce corruption from this country, bit by bit. Also it would give a better image to the outworld and encourage future expats to come here if these kinds of things were addressed properly.
It is easy to see the motives of the guy – bad financial situation, easy access wealthy western people, not much to lose – but there is still one fundamental difference I find disturbing. I am fine with beggars facing me on the street and asking for money, since that’s all they have. I can easily ignore them knowing that I don’t have to have anything to do with them if I don’t want to. With an employee of the housing company things are a little different: he has access to my apartment, he knows where I live and in the worst case I will have to do business with him in the future. In other words, I can’t just ignore him and go on with my life.
So I am facing a guy with nothing more than his job to lose, and I can make that loss happen. In my opinion it would be a healthy thing for the country to happen, but on the other hand I can’t be sure of my safety if I do the thing I consider right. I don’t want enemies with nothing to lose, especially in a country like this.
This whole thing has really gotten me thinking of my basic values. If this was a question in a survey, I would definitely and without second thoughts bring out the whole incident, but in real life it is not that simple. I want to set things straight, but I don’t want to compromise my own safety. I’m also thinking of bringing this out just before I leave, which would pretty much eliminate the safety hazard.
I am really puzzled. What should I do?
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